Today is Mother's Day, and although it's already 8 pm in my part of the world, I still felt compelled to write something for the holiday. This isn't the rudimentary Happy Mother's Day post. Instead, this is a very personal story about a sequence of events that occurred a couple of days ago.
I was contacted by a young female basketball player interested in having me train her. She inquired about my prices and how to go about scheduling sessions, and I gave her my website link and phone number to call me. In case she was nervous or shy about calling me herself, I offered the option to have her mother call. That's when the first bomb dropped. She wrote back that her mother was dead. I immediately felt terrible because I had met her mother last year along with her younger sister and didn't even consider the possibility that she was no longer with us. Further conversation led me to discover that both of her parents recently passed away in a car accident.
Upon hearing this, I was immediately consumed with grief. I held back tears until a coworker asked if I was OK. Then the tears started to flow. Why was I crying? I wasn't close with this young woman. I had only spoken with her a couple of times before.
"I want to be thoroughly used up when I die, for the harder I work, the more I live. Life is no brief candle for me. It is a sort of splendid torch which I have got hold of for a moment, and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations."~ George Bernard Shaw
This is an empowering message. The question is do we have the courage to do so. Especially nowadays where we are in what I term "the hater era". What do I mean by that? I mean that if you watch TV, sports commentators, read articles online, listen to people talk, there is a negative undercurrent that pervades the airwaves. People are looking to expose people, players, things, efforts, businesses, etc. in a negative light. I will admit, that there are several negative outlets available that don't need any help, yet at the same time, there seems to be this driving force to expose people in a bad way that just didn't seem as prevalent in times past.
With this in mind, do people have the courage to expose themselves to ridicule for going against the grain? In order for many of us to reach the pinacle of our greatness and indeed, the purpose for which we are here, we must. We must have the courage to follow our hearts, our passions, our destinies and do what we are called to do. We must think different.
When we think of Thanksgiving, immediately images of families feasting fill our heads. Although many will loosen their belts to accommodate ample servings, the holiday is special because of the families and friends coming together to contribute to this feast in a "potluck" fashion. It is a time of community and celebration.
Thanksgiving marks the beginning of the holiday season in a wonderful way. Before our children begin to make their Christmas lists of wants from Santa, they have an opportunity to list what they are already thankful for. As parents, we are also in this inspiring position. As the stress of the financial strain of the holiday season begins to set-in, we may evaluate all that is good in our lives, and maybe some of the blessings that we take for granted on a daily basis.
As a busy multi-tasking mom, I'm constantly looking for ways to organize my family life, days, goals, plans, appointments, thoughts…my life in general. Many of my friends who are also parents voice the same concern. The burning question for many, seems to be: "how do I balance parenting with my personal and/or business life?"
Time management for parents is a valuable tool. With all of the resources out there, how does one go about finding the right solution? Is there a solution? I believe there is, unfortunately, it's not a quick fix. To me, the solution may very well be a hodgepodge of the various resources available. I've compiled a list of tips from the information I've found on time management in books and around the internet:
With all of the technological innovation going on, we’re becoming more and more glued to our seats. Thanks to the internet, the world is at our fingertips. While this statement holds true, the world is…out there. It’s outdoors, and many of us are missing it. I know I find myself online or on my computer busy at work, trying to change the world one keystroke at a time for hours or days on end. I have to force myself to leave technology behind sometimes, so that my family and I may truly enjoy the time we are spending together, outdoors.
What prompted this ‘ode to mother nature’? I’ll tell you. Some of you may already know that I took a very long drive yesterday. 25 hours from Sioux Falls, SD to Los Angeles, CA. My fiancé Rock and I split the time between us, not evenly, but close enough. Other than the gas and bathroom breaks, we drove straight through. I couldn’t help but stare at nature and the sky out the window, thinking about the beauty of America. We have so many different climates. I wish we weren’t so anxious to return to LA because I would have really liked to stop and take pictures of several of the places we drove through.